I remember my friend Paul’s words making their initial impact and they have stuck with me daily for the past 7 years. I had accepted the opportunity to visit a remote village in Borneo in the summer of 2004 and had observed poverty, squalor – and yet, happiness – like I’ve never seen before. His words that struck me were simple and honest: “Yeah, this is how most of the world lives.”

I was reminded of this again after reading Paul’s post entitled, “I Can Make You Happy… Right Now.” Of course, I jumped at even the thought of him actually coming through with his offer – and now, having read the surprisingly brief  article, I am positive that he does. Read it by clicking the title and let me know if you agree.

It also reminded me of a phrase I have heard in various places, by various people in various situations and income levels, or lack thereof.

“What I wouldn’t give for…”

…and then fill in the blank with whatever it is we think will make us happy. I know from experience that going down that road in my head and my reality hardly ever leads to where I thought it would, and usually in the other direction.

Lord, make me a grateful person for your presence in my life and for the people, places and provision you have placed in my life. Let us all be able to say wholeheartedly, “I am truly blessed!”

I love great movies and I quote them all the time around the house with my family. Penny gave up being annoyed by it a long time ago and frequently throws her own quotes out there, so we laugh together, banter back and forth to see who drops the character first or how far we can take the scene.

I never thought I would throw out a quote from A League of Their Own, but it just happened spontaneously the other day. The story is about a women’s baseball league created during WWII to be a substitute sports program while most of the men were away at war. It’s a great line from a quick dialog between Jimmy Dugan (Tom Hanks), the reluctant coach of the Peaches, and Dottie Hinson (Geena Davis), the reluctant star of the team, as Dottie’s husband returns home and she decides to leave the game. Read it or watch it below…

Jimmy Dugan: Taking a little day trip?
Dottie Hinson: No, Bob and I are driving home. To Oregon.
Jimmy Dugan: [long pause] You know, I really thought you were a ballplayer.
Dottie Hinson: Well, you were wrong.
Jimmy Dugan: Was I?
Dottie Hinson: Yeah. It is only a game, Jimmy. It’s only a game, and, and, I don’t need this. I have Bob; I don’t need this. At all.
Jimmy Dugan: I, I gave away five years at the end my career to drink. Five years. And now there isn’t anything I wouldn’t give to get back any one day of it.
Dottie Hinson: Well, we’re different.
Jimmy Dugan: This is [insert poultry expletive]…Dottie, if you want to go back to Oregon and make a hundred babies, great, I’m in no position to tell anyone how to live. But sneaking out like this, quitting, you’ll regret it for the rest of your life. Baseball is what gets inside you. It’s what lights you up, you can’t deny that.
Dottie Hinson: It just got too hard.
Jimmy Dugan: It’s supposed to be hard. If it wasn’t hard, everyone would do it. The hard… is what makes it great.

Last week, Penny and I were both frustrated at how hard things are around here sometimes and it just came out of my mouth – “The hard is what makes it great!” Things have been hard around here, for a variety of reasons that I am a bit embarrassed to mention. I’m embarrassed to say what we consider to be “hard.” Because when I look around the world in comparison, our difficulties seem so trivial and small. (See the note at the bottom).

Yes, our kids are nuts sometimes, but they are healthy and loving and I wouldn’t change them one bit. Yes, school is a circus some days, but we are so fortunate to have the privilege of teaching our own children and have them here with us most of the time. Yes, money is tight, but God is providing for our every need.

It’s one of those paradoxical statements made by a calloused character in a movie, but it really rings true. We are reaching for, and achieving in many ways, specific levels of excellence, character and impact in our family, business and friendships. And there are times when we are indeed reminded that, put another way, “If it was easy, everybody would do it.” I am convinced that the “hard” parts are proof that let us know that what we are attempting is worthwhile. I hope anyway…

And there was something so hard one time, that only one Man could do it for the rest of mankind. And just when it seemed everything had gone wrong – it was great.

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.”   – Hebrews 12:1-3, NIV

So when things are hard all around us, let’s remember that the Tomb is empty. Let us not grow weary. Let us not lose heart. The real hard part has been done for us, so let us run with perseverance the race that God has laid out for us and we, too, will be great…one day.

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Note:  I never intended for this post to be a plug of any kind, but all this brain boggling thought has made me consider those that have it really hard in life, more often and more severely (like staying alive from day-to-day) than we do. If you are inclined to help some of those folks out, consider the ministry work that Mustard Seed International is doing in Southeast Asia, India and South Sudan. 100% of funds donated go directly to people in need at their mission sites, schools, clinics and orphanages. And, if you can’t help out financially, remember that 100% of your prayers go directly to the Father to intercede on their behalf. Tell them that I sent you… Thanks.

I’ve been thinking a lot about forgiveness lately – what it is, what it means, what it does, how it makes us feel when we give it and when we receive it. What it does to us when we withhold it. Forgiveness exists on so many levels, from the mundane, like asking forgiveness for stepping on someone’s toe, to the eternal, the way God forgives us for all the sins we have ever committed over our whole life.

It’s hard – some folks aren’t so easy to forgive, you know? I’m certain that I am one of them sometimes. So I’m reading along in Matthew 18 and Jesus takes some time to talk with people about how to live. He says some hard things, extreme things. In verse 22, Peter asks him, “Lord, how many times should I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” I would imagine that Peter might have been thinking to himself that he had made a generous suggestion. But then, Jesus blows it out of the water when he replies, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy TIMES seven.”

There are at least two things that we try to wrap our heads around with that statement. Even now, I can see Peter doing the cyphering in his head, “Really?! Well, Jesus, that’s…you know…quite a lot!” That’s my nature – my first thought is to calculate the actual numbers, find the tangible limits of what my forgiveness to others should be. I ask the wrong question and I often miss Jesus’ point entirely – He’s not saying that we can write someone off on the 491st offense. He’s saying that we should be characterized by forgiveness, that we should make it our habit, our nature – our very heart. Our model for our forgiveness should mirror the picture of how God forgives us: eternally. We have been made in God’s likeness and we – although imperfectly – reflect his attributes like love, joy, patience, creativity and maybe most of all, forgiveness.

He has given us the capacity to forgive, but now I’m wondering, maybe along with Peter, “How do we forgive perfectly, continuously and completely as God does?” I think Jesus’ point is that, in our own strength and by ourselves, WE CAN’T. Time after time in speaking with the people around him, Jesus would take a moral standard that had been manipulated by men and diluted down to something that was a workaround and give it back it’s true meaning and real power. He shows us that the moral standard is impossible to achieve apart from God’s enabling Holy Spirit within us.

He talked about adultery – a term that folks had been taking liberties with and finding workarounds – and he redefined it to extend beyond any physical act and showed that it is a matter of the heart. It is ultimately and primarily an offense against a holy God. He shows us that in order to control the immoral act, we need to nip it in the bud and control the lust in our heart.

And so it is with forgiveness.

I call this “Part One,” not so much because I have lofty ideas of writing a nicely thought out seven-part series on forgiveness, but because I know that forgiveness is such a multi-faceted wonder. I will continue to examine, wrestle with and ponder it with the goal of embracing forgiveness on a daily basis.

And since I’m not fond of reading or writing lengthy posts, I thought I would stop here and pick it up again.

A likely starting point for next time:

What do we do when the offense seems too much to forgive? Infidelity? Physical injury? Betrayal? These and any number of other horrendous acts are difficult to forgive. And what if the offender doesn’t seek or feel the need to be forgiven?

I don’t claim to have easy answers to such weighty situations. One thing I do know is that, sometimes, the one who benefits the most from forgiveness is the one who gives it – not necessarily the one who was to receive it. I don’t know how that works, really, but I have experienced it personally.

Let me know what YOU think.